Some Worrying is Healthy…Go into Problem Solving Mode.


Mary feared if she gained weight her husband would leave her.  When we discussed it, I asked her how much weight would she have to gain for her husband to say I’m out the door. After much thought she said, he wouldn’t leave, but he would be upset and would probably take her to a personal trainer and dietician. I said that actually sounds helpful, but what if he did leave.  So we walked through the steps of what would happen if he left.  First she said she would be sad and depressed, then her friends would start calling, then they would take her out, then she would start meeting new people, then she would start dating, then she would meet someone new. I’m not saying it is easy, if our spouse left us and we would go through some sad and emotional times naturally, but if it did happen, recognize we will get to the other side. We just have to give ourselves a chance.

Some worrying is healthy, because it gets us to go into problem solving mode.  If it is unhealthy catastrophic worrying and we can’t change the outcome, let it go and find a new focus to immediately park your brain. Play out the different scenarios, and how you would handle the situation if it did happen and realize you’ll get to the other side.  Worrying about it now doesn’t help you; it just creates stress.  Trust that everything will work out the way that it was meant to. You will overcome each challenge as it presents to you and take proactive action steps where you can. Self Talk: “For today I choose to enjoy the day and let go of unnecessary worrying.” Enjoy the good and just focus on today’s challenges. Stay in the moment and let go of the rest.

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