Ways to Overcome Resistance to Change and Self Sabotage


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Here are some ways to Overcome Resistance to Change & Self – Sabotage

Do you ever find yourself starting projects only to leave them unfinished?

Why is it that we have difficulty finishing things we start? Is it boredom? Maybe we feel stuck and choose to quit instead working through to a solution? When we are working on creating change in important parts of our lives, it is not surprising if we are dealing with some resistance to the changes. So, what exactly is resistance?

Resistance is a feeling we get when things are about to change. While you are going through this process, we want you to be aware of some of the different feelings and thoughts you may experience and how to work through them. Resistance to change comes in many forms.

The first few sessions, like anything new we are excited, and we do everything the way we are supposed to. Then something from life hits, it throws us off balance and we might find ourselves saying “Maybe this is not for me”, or “I can’t do this now, I can’t think.” Or we use other delaying tactics like “As soon as I get through with ____.” Some familiar forms of resistance “I’ll do it later.” Or “this is not the right time.” Whenever you find yourself using reasons not to move forward, it is because you are demonstrating some form of resistance to change.

We have to be open to change, or we will always be finding a reason not to do something that would benefit us. We would always prefer other people to change – not us. If we keep doing the same thing over and over, we will always get what we’ve always gotten. If we want to have different things show up in our lives, we first have to be open to and willing to change. Sometimes we demonstrate resistance because we don’t know “how” to change. We may become impatient because unless we can figure out exactly what kind of change is coming, and how we will feel about it, we simply opt for doing nothing because it seems safer. Impatience is another form of resistance. It is resistance to learning and to changing. When we demand that it be done now, completed at once, then we don’t give ourselves time to learn the lesson involved with the problem we have created. This is why diets can be effective initially – because they are able to demonstrate results quickly. That satisfies us and eliminates temporary resistance. However, since we didn’t take the time to learn about ourselves, and to deal with the reasons why we eat when we are not hungry, soon the weight comes back on.

Resistance to change can come in the form of Fear – “I’m not ready yet, I might fail,” Or in Denial – “I can’t do anything about this problem,” or Delaying tactics – “The time isn’t right. Or, “As soon as I get through with ____.” Some of us have a streak of stubbornness within us. If we decide to do something differently, the stubbornness can surface and our resistance to changing our thinking is strong. We may temporarily become self-righteous, angry and withdrawn.

So what can we do to move through the resistance?….

Stand in front of your mirror and look into your eyes as you say 3-4 times:

“I am open to change”

Did you feel any tightness in your throat? Was it difficult or easy to say? If you felt like it just didn’t feel right in your gut, than ask yourself what the resistance is about. Then say in the mirror 3 – 4 times:

“I am open to release the need for the resistance”

Whenever you find yourself questioning if you should continue, or if this is right for you, just allow yourself to see it for what it really is, and simply tell yourself that you are willing to change, and willing to release all resistance. The Universe supports us in every thought we choose to think. If we think we can’t – we can’t. Act as if you believe this is the best thing for you at this time and your life. Give yourself the gift of patience and love – you will get positive results!

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Overcoming Emotional Eating.


In order to overcome emotional eating you first have to understand what it is.

Emotional overeating is primarily eating to mask difficult feelings.  When we experience any unpleasant emotion, we may be tempted to reach for our “sugar/simple-carbohydrate” fix (By simple carbohydrates I mean white flour, refined products, not fruits, whole grains or vegetables.)  We also may be emotionally eating for at any time and for any reason, whether we are feeling anything or not aware of feeling anything in particular.  We may be soothing our boredom or mindlessly snacking through the day.  For many of us feeding ourselves becomes disconnected from physical hunger and at times we may not know any other ways to take care of ourselves.

These are stressful time and we all manifest our stress differently at different times.  Some of us tend to hold it inside.  Others explode in angry rages.  Our responses may differ but when we are stressed, our bodies produce excess cortisol and cortisol is a hormone that increases appetite.  This is important to know because sometimes if you realize you are extra hungry and you are feeling stressed, you will know that it is in large part due to the cortisol flooding into your system and you may choose to do something to manage your stress other that eating to soothe yourself.  You could go for a walk, talk with a friend or take a warm bath for example.

In summary, to be your very best, naturally healthy, vibrant, beautiful self and to stop eating for emotional reasons, you must consider your total wellbeing.  It is no longer possible for you to think in terms of calories in/calories out as your guide.  It is more complicated than that and yet it is paradoxically simple as well.

For more information on how to get help with emotional overeating visit: http://www.thehungryheart.org.