Time Management||Procrastination


STEP FIVE: Don’t procrastinate today? Save procrastination for tomorrow.

Stop worrying is it right, what if, and just start. You’ll waste as much energy worrying about it and the job could have been done already.

Start with small doable easy task and build up small successes and then take that energy and put it into bigger pieces. Keep each piece small and realistic and accomplishable on a moment to moment, day by day basis. If it feels to big, cut it in half, and cut the goal in half again.

Take responsibility for time when you are preoccupying yourself with other activities and not truly focusing on your life goals. There is a difference between activity and productivity. Start being realistic with yourself, if you are just coming up with things that need to get done, and you keep putting off your true priorities.

Take responsibility for your delays.

Create a reward system for to overcome challenging obstacles or doing a new activity.

Overcome any challenging beliefs or resistance to an activity. Use the tools to Refuting Irrational Ideas or look at:   –  Is it a conflict with one of my other priorities?

Just Do it!


Create an Action Plan|| Time Management


Step Three:  Creating an Action Plan

Write down the step by step path of how you are going to get from where you are today to where you would like to be.  Include in your action plan- a well thought out and specific goal, a detailed list of resources you will need and how to get them, the order of the steps you will take, how you will monitor your progress, reasons why you might procrastinate and how to overcome it,  and what rewards will motivate you.

Imagine you have achieved your goal- what would it look like, how would it feel? What did it take?  And start brainstorming all that would be involved. Have Fun and Get Excited, Be realistic about what you are willing to do and not. Set a contract with yourself of what you are going to do and how you are going to monitor your progress.

Create Effective Goals


Step Two: Creating Effective Goals

Your Values are your ideals. Your Goals are specific in time and action. Ask yourself the following questions about each of your goals.

Is this goal something I am willing to commit a lot of time and energy to achieving? Just because you would like to travel, doesn’t mean you would be willing to dedicate money and time to accomplishing it.

Is this goal consistent with your highest values? If you want to finish your college education, but spending time with your sick grandmother is your priority right now, you may give yourself more time to accomplish it.

Is this goal achievable? Have you set a specific time to reach your goal? Do you have access to the resources to make it happen?  Have you defined the details so you know when you have reached your goal?

Is this goal written from a positive perspective? I won’t overeat versus I will eat 5 to 6 small meals a day.

Are your goals in balance? Are all of your goals related to work and not including fun or family time? Creating balance in your life is the key to long term happiness and minimizes stress.

Break your goals in to Short Term (one week to one year), Medium Term (one to five years), and Long Term over 5 years.

Manage Your Time Better!


Ready to Start Achieving your Goals and Managing your time better?

Are you constantly running late, rushing, not as productive as you would like to be, having a hard time making decisions, procrastinating, or having difficulty setting and achieving goals?

This is the session for you.

Step One Identify your values and priorities.

Imagine for a moment, you were told you had 6 months to live. Now imagine it is after your funeral, and you are looking back on your life, what things would you have wanted to do and accomplish. What things would you not want to waste another moment on?

Identify your Highest Priorities

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Some Worrying is Healthy…Go into Problem Solving Mode.


Mary feared if she gained weight her husband would leave her.  When we discussed it, I asked her how much weight would she have to gain for her husband to say I’m out the door. After much thought she said, he wouldn’t leave, but he would be upset and would probably take her to a personal trainer and dietician. I said that actually sounds helpful, but what if he did leave.  So we walked through the steps of what would happen if he left.  First she said she would be sad and depressed, then her friends would start calling, then they would take her out, then she would start meeting new people, then she would start dating, then she would meet someone new. I’m not saying it is easy, if our spouse left us and we would go through some sad and emotional times naturally, but if it did happen, recognize we will get to the other side. We just have to give ourselves a chance.

Some worrying is healthy, because it gets us to go into problem solving mode.  If it is unhealthy catastrophic worrying and we can’t change the outcome, let it go and find a new focus to immediately park your brain. Play out the different scenarios, and how you would handle the situation if it did happen and realize you’ll get to the other side.  Worrying about it now doesn’t help you; it just creates stress.  Trust that everything will work out the way that it was meant to. You will overcome each challenge as it presents to you and take proactive action steps where you can. Self Talk: “For today I choose to enjoy the day and let go of unnecessary worrying.” Enjoy the good and just focus on today’s challenges. Stay in the moment and let go of the rest.

Job Stress Management|| Step 2


Go into Brainstorming mode of how you could use your time more efficiently, minimize your time and exposure to stressful people or situations. Speak to your boss or coworkers about the challenges you are facing if your plate is too full, how you can priorities what truly needs to get done first, and are there ways to get help. Let them know if they give you 12 hours of work in an 8 hour day, we are setting ourselves up for failure on a long term basis; this isn’t a realistic pace that we can maintain. So something has to change. Game plan to change expectations, reprioritize what gets worked on, and set windows aside to work on special projects.

Put down your game plan to reorganize each stressor into more manageable daily activities so you are setting yourself up with realistic expectations and meeting them. If you have unhealthy people in your environment, minimize your time and exposure to them. Find personal interest to focus in on when you take a break. Re-evaluate your game plan and where you are with reducing your stressors. Keep coming up and testing new ideas of how to handle challenges. Learn to praise yourself for your accomplishments, as opposed to looking for them from outside sources. “Great Job, I finished that project on time. “

Always know we have choices. If you don’t like what is going on around you, choose to look at the situation differently or change it. How else can you look at your situation? What are my options?

For Example) I had a client who was a stay at home mom, played tennis and golf during the day and loved and prioritized spending time with her kids. She hated her husband and resent being with him. She would binge from 6pm when he got home until 10pm when he would go to sleep. She didn’t want to leave him, because she was concerned about how it would affect her kids.

We brainstormed, and what she decided is that she looked at her job as starting at 6pm and ending at 10pm. She looked at those 4 hours as her work time, that she was paid well and had a good daytime quality of life. She realized if she left him, she would have to work 8 hours a day and not earn nearly what she would want to to live on. So when she saw her husband each night, she would tell herself, I’m getting paid to be here.  Just like any other job, you have to put up with situations or people you may prefer not to, but because I’m getting paid to do it. I can overcome it. I’m getting paid to do it, and tomorrow I’ll be golfing and spending time with my kids. This is well worth it! When she changed her attitude, guess how her husband’s behavior responded?

How can you look at your situation differently? 

How can you share your concerns with others and work together to come up with win-win solutions to workplace challenges?

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